The expert gave advice to women who want to attract a sweet, kind man, and not a selfish, manipulative jerk.

Do you want to attract a genuinely sweet, kind man, not a selfish, manipulative jerk? There are strategies you can use and ways to meet good men that you probably haven’t tried yet. They are discussed in the material published by HackSpirit.

It is noted that your habits and behavior may be repelling the men you really want to attract. The publication advises saying goodbye to eight ways of behavior.

1) Finding love in the club

Many people want to go out, have fun, drink and have sex without being serious or having any commitments. No problem unless you are truly looking for a relationship with a good man.

Be realistic in your expectations about where you can meet a man who will actually make a great partner. It’s probably not in a club, so start looking elsewhere.

2) Trying to be something you are not

Do you know why people always give the old “Be yourself” advice to people who are worried about dating? Because although this is the most obvious advice, it is usually the most appropriate.

This will help prevent guys from giving you the wrong impression from the start, and it’s much better than having to figure things out later. Besides, how do you expect to meet real, kind guys if you’re a fake yourself?

3) Not being the person you want to attract

If you want to attract a good man, you should give up the “Be the nicest person” behavior. If you’re not a completely good person but want to attract someone who can help you change, that probably won’t happen.

They say opposites attract, but in practice, couples tend to get together because they are more alike than they are different. It’s just that some of their functions are different, but complement each other.

4) Ignoring your intuition

You may notice little things like the way he always talks about himself or how kind he is to you but rude to the wait staff at the restaurants you go to. Maybe something is whispering to you that he is not a good guy, but you ignore that voice.

If this is the case, you need to stop ignoring your instincts. You may let things like looks and money cloud your judgment, but if you want to be sure that your man is truly handsome, you simply can’t ignore them anymore.

5) Games

If you want guys to stop playing games with your heart, wouldn’t it make sense to stop playing games with theirs yourself? Some people attach others to them because they like to attract attention. Others send mixed signals, becoming hot one moment and cold the next, so that the other person has no idea where they really are.

But good guys won’t want to play games. They know that these games can be negative and offensive, so they avoid them. If this is you, then you better say goodbye to this behavior immediately.

6) Keep other options open

If you always keep your options open while you see if it will work out with one man, think about how it will make him feel. Won’t he see that you are not fully committed to the relationship with him? Wouldn’t he feel like he was in some kind of competition rather than just having a relationship?

If you find someone who you think is good and everything can be fine, stop dating others. Log out of the dating app. Focus on whether it will work or not. If yes, great! If not, you can always go back there and try again without missing anything.

7) Be closed

If you have a big, tall wall around you that makes you invulnerable, that’s probably stopping good men as well. If you are emotionally withdrawn, you are more likely to appear standoffish or difficult. How will this attract good-hearted men who want to really get to know you?

What you have to do is make yourself at least a little more vulnerable. It’s hard if you’ve been burned before, but without opening up, how can you expect a loving man to love you?

8) Get guys to carry your luggage

Men are supposed to be big and strong, but expecting a guy to deal with your emotional baggage is unfair. But good men don’t want to be distrusted because your ex cheated or lied to you all the time.

If you blame new guys for what happened to old guys, you’ll have a lot of problems in any relationship.

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