Loss is actually programmed into our life, because we always lose something, starting from childhood, but what happens now is usually very big losses. Therefore, destroyed property is a loss. The death of loved ones is a loss that is considered the strongest stressful situation in a person’s life. However, it should be remembered that our biology, our genetic program is aimed at prolonging life. Even after the greatest suffering, we go out and begin to live, laugh, rejoice, give birth, etc.

However, one must always remember what to do so that suffering does not drag on:

1. Be there. Not formally, I called once and sympathized, but, if possible, be physically close. We are very social, and it is important for us if a person takes someone’s hand, and this physical contact is much more important than many words spoken on the phone.

2. In no case should you compare. Never say, “I’ve been through this too.” This is perceived selfishly, because a person begins to talk about himself and moves away from the one to whom he came, near whom he is next.

3. Don’t talk, do it. There are elementary things here: heat tea, offer food, create an object of self-care. That is, at this stage, one should be forced to do ordinary everyday things.

4. Don’t say the phrase “You can handle it” because it is very selfish and stereotypical. We do not know and do not feel what a person is really going through to say that he will cope with it. Therefore, it is better to be silent and just be there.

5. Do not look for the meaning of what happened.

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